Just a thought
Almost everyday, I hear of relationships starting… and of relationships coming to an end. Online, offline, what is the difference, after all ? Is there anyone still so blind to think that a virtual relationship doesn’t mean a thing ?
What really matters is how these… errr… “experiences” (would this be the right word as in moments of life we have experienced, i.e. lived?) affect us.
I am always really happy whenever I learn someone is starting a new relationship. I share the friend’s joy and expectation, their nerves and anxiety and everytime I hope this is it for them! On a less brighter note, it really makes me weary to know someone has ended up a relationship – or is having so many problems that I feel the end will be unavoidable.
Here and there I even am told “I separated/divorced recently, he/her cheated on me and I couldn’t stand that”, and the minute I express dismay, the other person laughs and replies “ah, don’t worry, I already got myself a new boyfriend/girlfriend/living with someone else/sleeping with someone else, etc”.
All this makes me a bit confused. Why are we like this? Why don’t things just last forever? Aren’t we able understand each other better? Aren’t we able to forgive more? Aren’t we able to lie less?
Sometimes, knowing about others up and downs drives me to an emotional rollercoaster as well and makes me think. At these times, I really wish that we, as humans beings, could be able to stick to someone, no matter what – but then again, would we be happier that way ? I doubt it, of course. And yet… are we happy this way?
In years gone by, relationships lasted because it was a taboo to divorce. Many unhappy people stayed together because it was ‘the done thing’
Nowadays, we are more enlightened and not so prepared to put up with being badly treated. I would love to think that I could find a ‘forever’ someone, maybe it is possible, maybe we just need to learn tolerance and understanding, and not be so eager to just throw away something special without thinking it through first.
Sometimes, it is easy to forget just what someone means to us until they are gone and the regrets set in. Perhaps, with a little more understanding, caring and communication, it is a possibility!